When looking for a new church, do your research FIRST!

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Last weekend we celebrated my husband’s birthday with family coming in from out of town. It was a fantastic weekend! We went out to eat at his favorite restaurant (if you’re in the Dayton area, be sure to check out Company 7 BBQ, it’s delish!) and M and I got him his RUSH backpack he’s stared at for months.

Mostly the weekend was low-key, until Sunday rolled around.

We’ve been searching for a new church for about a year now, but just haven’t found one we feel at home in. So on Sunday, we thought we’d try one just outside of our neighborhood. It’s a beautiful church on the outside, with plenty of parking and an attached activity center. We thought it could really fit our family, by the mere looks of it.

Note: Just as you would not do to a book, DO NOT JUDGE A CHURCH BY ITS EXTERIOR.

When we walked into the main entrance, it was covered with signs of what was appropriate to wear, and what was not. As you can probably guess, I was breaking about 4 out of 6 rules.

  • No jeans (I was wearing jeans)
  • No low-cut tops (I was wearing a scoop neck t-shirt)
  • No flip flops (I was totally wearing flip flops)
  • Women must wear veils (I do not own a veil, other than the one I got married in)

Needless to say, for one of the few times in my life, I stood out. And NOT in a good way. So, I took a seat furthest back.

Because we live so close to this church (and it’s not exactly in the “best” of neighborhoods), I just checked out the main website for scheduled mass times, and didn’t dig for the “newcomers tab”.

BIG MISTAKE.The mass was in Latin. And the Priest spoke to the Alter, which was against the back wall. And he didn’t have a microphone on. So, not only did I not understand the Priest, I couldn’t hear any words to follow along. Talk about a let-down.

It was a beautiful mass to experience (just once) but I really don’t think our family fits in here. Also, if you’re wondering where the pics are, I can assure you that it was not appropriate to take pictures of the church (no matter how bad I wanted to). This church was STUNNING, to put it mildly.

Back to the drawing board…


A year in review

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This year, was probably one of my toughest yet rewarding years of my life. It’s a relief to see it behind me, but I am actually thankful I’ve experienced so much.

At the beginning of this year, I took over the family finances to ease the burden on my husband. It made it easier for just me to organize and pay the bills. It was a very rewarding growing-up experience. Before this year I’d never balanced a check book or really have to pay my own bills. Someone in my life has always just taken over that responsibility for me, and it was certainly an eye-opener!

January was tough. Because of this, behind the scenes, blogging has also been tough. Because I chose to write about my experience of abuse, I’ve dealt with a lot of harassment, hate filled blogs (that not only attacked me, but also my husband and daughter) and hate-mail on the back side.  It was from those who supported (or are) the people that did these things to me. I pray for their salvation daily, and in the end, I am so glad I have this forum to share my story. So many of you came forward with your own stories of abuse (whether it be physical, mental or both) and it’s nice to know that there are other survivors out there.

In February, I also went to Blissdom, and met some amazing people! I also got closer to some of my “Big Deal Moms” during the experience (a big shout out to my “Meals and Deals” crew!) and it helped …Continue Reading…


Mother Theresa was amazing… and it’s a Word FULL Wednesday

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People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see in the final analysis. it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

-A poem by Mother Teresa


I’M CATHOLIC! (that’s a big “C”)

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At Saturday night’s Easter Vigil, I made one of the biggest leaps of my life.

I was baptized. …Continue Reading…


Rite of Sending, and Rite of Election

During Lent, I will be experiencing many new things in my faith formation. As some of you may/may not know, I am in the process of converting to Catholicism (RCIA catechumen). Today (Sunday) I will be involved in my Rite of Sending during the AM Mass, and then will be participating in the Rite of Election (where I am presented to our Archbishop, who won’t be there- instead it will be our area Dean) this same evening. Needless to say, it’s a big day for me. So, if you have a moment out of your busy day, I would appreciate it if you said a little prayer for me. It’s getting closer and closer to my baptism. I can’t believe it’s almost here!!