Ragu Mom’s the Word on Dinner!Manners- who, what, where and when.


I am so excited to announce that I’m officially the new brand ambassador for Ragu’s Mom’s the Word on Dinner campaign!


This is so exciting for my family and I  because:

1) Ragu is “yummy deliciousness”. Direct quote from my 5 year-old.

2) They understand and appreciate the importance of a mother’s influence and care about giving us tools to feed our families healthy and nutritious meals.

3) Ragu actually has faith in me, that I CAN cook (feel free to giggle, my husband just did).

In all seriousness though, I LOVE what they’re already doing. If you visit Ragu on Facebook, you can view their dinner time topic videos. I’ve really enjoyed this week’s topic: TABLE MANNERS.

I think this is an important topic to every mom (unless that mom was born in a barn, which I don’t judge our furry friends). So many have questions about it.

But I’m here to tell you a little secret:

I went to finishing school. For an entire year.

I know.

While I might not have the best grammar (Oh my Lord, I wish you could have been in my English classrooms growing up) I certainly know my way around manners at the table.

Lots of people think that elbows on the table are an all out no-no. And I’m here to tell you that it’s simply not true. Of course, if you’re hunched over like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, then there’s an issue. But, if you’re resting your arm while picking up your glass or in between courses, it’s a-okay.

My biggest issue at the dinner table is politeness. While not exactly “proper manners” it’s a hot-topic in the same category. You should always thank the person who made the meal. Even if you didn’t enjoy it. You should also offer to clear the table or help do dishes (For me, it’s clearing the table. I’ve YET to find a dish soap that didn’t make my skin welt up and peel by even touching the suds.). Saying “please” and “thank you” are often words forgotten or simply not drilled taught to children enough. Believe it or not, everyone doesn’t think this way when raising a child. Unfortunately, I experienced that all to often while being a substitute teacher. With my daughter, as soon as she began speaking, I would refuse to give her anything until she said “please”. I got a lot of flack (for lack of a better term) from friends and family members because they thought she was too young at 9 months to learn this. But I’m proud to say, now at 5, she doesn’t need to be reminded to say “please” and “thank you”. They come to her naturally, without thought.

But with that being said…

We have other issues when it comes to manners at the table.

We call it “fork-gate”.

My husband and I totally disagree on it.

In my opinion: the fork is there, you need to use it. No matter what.

His opinion: the fork is optional. As long as our daughter is eating it shouldn’t matter.

This is when I want to slam my head on my desk as hard as I can.

I see where he is coming from. I GET where he is coming from.

However; I don’t want her to grow up, get a job, get invited to a fancy dinner by her boss, only to pick up her ziti by her fingers because she wasn’t in the “mood” to use her fork.

I’m pretty sure my heart just landed at the bottom of my stomach.

I can only pray that she’ll change her mind as she gets older.

So I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter- manners at the table!

You can comment here, or check out the conversation happening at Ragu’s Facebook page. We’re also discussing it on twitter- just make sure you follow the #Momstheword hashtag.

I’m looking forward to hearing what you have to say!


This post/video was created in connection with my appointment as an ambassador in the Ragu Mom’s the Word on Dinner Program. Visit http://www.facebook.com/ragusauce to join the conversation.


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  1. (1.) where do I rank in the groupAugust 22nd, 2011